1 Corinthians 7
1 Corinthians 7 is the part where Paul answers questions from the members of the Corinthian church, providing practical guidance about marriage, singleness, divorce, and life as a married couple. If earlier parts of the letter dealt with various church issues, from chapter 7 onward it takes the form of direct answers to questions sent by believers (see 7:1). This chapter offers balanced teaching about a variety of circumstances related to marriage—marriage, divorce, singleness, remarriage, and couples with different beliefs.
1verseNow concerning the things about which you wrote to me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2verseBut, because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
3verseLet the husband give his wife the affection owed her, and likewise also the wife her husband.
4verseThe wife doesn’t have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise also the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5verseDon’t deprive one another, unless it is by consent for a season, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and may be together again, that Satan doesn’t tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
6verseBut this I say by way of concession, not of commandment.
7verseYet I wish that all men were like me. However, each man has his own gift from God, one of this kind, and another of that kind.
8verseBut I say to the unmarried and to widows, it is good for them if they remain even as I am.
9verseBut if they don’t have self-control, let them marry. For it’s better to marry than to burn with passion.
10verseBut to the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not leave her husband
11verse(but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife.
12verseBut to the rest I—not the Lord—say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her.
13verseThe woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave her husband.
14verseFor the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
15verseYet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace.
16verseFor how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
17verseOnly, as the Lord has distributed to each man, as God has called each, so let him walk. So I command in all the assemblies.
18verseWas anyone called having been circumcised? Let him not become uncircumcised. Has anyone been called in uncircumcision? Let him not be circumcised.
19verseCircumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but what matters is keeping God’s commandments.
20verseLet each man stay in that calling in which he was called.
21verseWere you called being a bondservant? Don’t let that bother you, but if you get an opportunity to become free, use it.
22verseFor he who was called in the Lord being a bondservant is the Lord’s free man. Likewise he who was called being free is Christ’s bondservant.
23verseYou were bought with a price. Don’t become bondservants of men.
24verseBrothers, let each man, in whatever condition he was called, stay in that condition with God.
25verseNow concerning virgins, I have no commandment from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who has obtained mercy from the Lord to be trustworthy.
26verseTherefore I think that because of the distress that is on us, it’s good for a man to remain as he is.
27verseAre you bound to a wife? Don’t seek to be freed. Are you free from a wife? Don’t seek a wife.
28verseBut if you marry, you have not sinned. If a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have oppression in the flesh, and I want to spare you.
29verseBut I say this, brothers: the time is short. From now on, both those who have wives may be as though they had none;
30verseand those who weep, as though they didn’t weep; and those who rejoice, as though they didn’t rejoice; and those who buy, as though they didn’t possess;
31verseand those who use the world, as not using it to the fullest. For the mode of this world passes away.
32verseBut I desire to have you to be free from cares. He who is unmarried is concerned for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord;
33versebut he who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife.
34verseThere is also a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.
35verseThis I say for your own benefit, not that I may ensnare you, but for that which is appropriate, and that you may attend to the Lord without distraction.
36verseBut if any man thinks that he is behaving inappropriately toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of her age, and if need so requires, let him do what he desires. He doesn’t sin. Let them marry.
37verseBut he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no urgency, but has power over his own will, and has determined in his own heart to keep his own virgin, does well.
38verseSo then both he who gives his own virgin in marriage does well, and he who doesn’t give her in marriage does better.
39verseA wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord.
40verseBut she is happier if she stays as she is, in my judgment, and I think that I also have God’s Spirit.
Principles Concerning Marriage
- The value of marriage and singleness: Paul makes it clear that marriage is not a sin, while also emphasizing that singleness is a precious life lived for the Lord. Since each person has different gifts, he says there is no need to force oneself into marriage or to choose singleness (7:7).
- Duties and relationships between spouses: Paul speaks of the fact that a married husband and wife have rights over each other’s bodies, and he stresses that love, respect, and mutual commitment are important between spouses (7:3-5).
Paul’s Counsel About Divorce and Remarriage
- An answer about divorce: Citing the Lord’s words, Paul does not encourage spouses to separate or divorce; if divorce becomes unavoidable, he advises them to reconcile or remain single (7:10-11).
- Marriage to an unbelieving spouse: If one of the spouses comes to faith, Paul emphasizes that the believing spouse should not divorce if the unbelieving spouse wants to live together, and that the influence of faith can be shared within the household (7:12-16).
Counsel to Remain in One’s Calling
Paul encourages each person to live faithfully in the place they have been called, regardless of their circumstances—whether they are married or not, or regardless of their social status (7:17-24). Although faith gives new value to life, rather than seeking sudden change, it is important to live according to God’s will in that very place.
The Benefits and Practice of Singleness
- The advantages of singleness: Paul says that from an end-times perspective, singleness allows one to serve the Lord more freely, and he also states that marriage is a gift from God (7:32-35).
- The principle of freedom: He encourages people to follow their calling before God, without being bound by whether they are married or single. He repeats that it is essential to live faithfully in the Lord wherever one is.
Meditation Points
- Consider what ways you can live that will please God in your current situation and circumstances.
- You can also reflect again on the meaning of God’s gifts and calling in relationships, decisions, and commitment.
Try Applying It to Yourself
- In the place of my life (marriage, singleness, family, etc.), check what is needed to faithfully carry out the responsibilities and calling currently given to me.
- You can think about specific practices that follow God’s heart rather than just formality, and follow God rather than the customs of the world.